There are plenty of ways to say you’re not feeling frisky enough for sex, but if you find yourself using excuse after excuse it could be a sign of bigger hormonal problems.
Ladies if that sounds at all familiar trust me when I tell you that you’re not alone. In fact, over 40 percent of adult women experience low libido, and I honestly think that it’s under-reported and that number is low.
And guys, when you’re popping one of those “blue diamonds” (Viagra) do you ever stop to ask, “Does my girl want to do this too?”
I mean, I can’t really blame you if you don’t because it always looks so mutual in the commercials doesn’t it?
Become a bedroom detective to locate libido thieves
So what if one of you is all revved up—either naturally or on Viagra—and the other just can’t get in the mood?
To catch your libido thief you’re going to need to become a bit of a bedroom detective and ask yourself two simple questions to start.
Question One: What medications am I taking?
Drugs are often a factor in crushing Cupid.
Meds that treat hypertension and depression can squash libido in a women in about two weeks flat. Estrogen based medications—namely birth control pills, patches and shots—can do it too.
Yes, as ironic as it sounds, these drugs that are designed to keep you from getting pregnant can damage your desire to even HAVE sex.
They do this by reducing your otherwise healthy levels of testosterone, the hormone which ignites libido in both men and women. As a pharmacist, I’ve seen this happen time and time again. A woman starts taking birth control and within 6 months she no longer has any interest in sex.
Even worse, she has to start thyroid medicine and/or antidepressants. It’s from the “drug mugger” effect on testosterone, as well as minerals that support thyroid and mood.
And it’ not just birth control pills ladies need to be aware of. If you’re taking any estrogen-containing meds (creams, pills or patches) for menopause symptoms they too could be cooling things down in the bedroom,
Question Two: What stage of life am I in?
If you’re experiencing menopause changing hormone levels can cause your libido to shrink. In addition, vaginal dryness—a common occurrence during menopause—can make sex uncomfortable which definitely can put a damper on the mood.
Another stage in life that can wreak havoc with your desire for sex is pregnancy and later breast feeding. The surge in hormones during this time in life can fluctuate drastically. One minute you’re laughing, feeling flirty and happy and the next you’re in tears, feeling on edge and want to curl up with a magazine instead of your man.
4 tricks to turn the heat back ON in the bedroom
But here’s the good news. No matter what the cause of your less than stellar love life there are a four simple tricks you can use to get your va-va-vavoom back:
Light My Fire Trick #1: DHEA
Improving your levels of DHEA, “the fountain of youth” hormone, can help with libido by increasing your testosterone levels.
A study confirms that DHEA supplementation in peri- and postmenopausal women improved sexual function.
Light My Fire Trick #2: Yoga
If you’re 45 or older yoga could be the trick that flips your desire switch back to the on position.
After 12 weeks of yoga, participants noted significant improvement in desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction and pain.
Light My Fire Trick #3: Ashwagandha
The thyroid-loving herb ashwagandha naturally boosts DHEA which goes on to amplify your testosterone levels. The aphrodisiac effect usually requires a dosage somewhere between 100 to 500 mg/day.
Light My Fire Trick #4: Dark Chocolate
My friend literally hides her chocolate in the freezer and take a few bites in between tucking her kids in bed, and then tucking her hubby in next. Chocolate stimulates more dopamine a.k.a. “the love chemical.”
Researchers who studied female libido concluded that women who consumed more dark chocolate enjoyed greater sexual satisfaction than women who didn’t eat the delicious treat.
Yum, talk about a prescription I can handle. Ladies, I’ll make a deal with you. I’ll pretend I don’t know you if I bump into you in the chocolate aisle wearing a big hat, sunglasses and a black trench coat.
In addition to writing a syndicated column on health which reaches 20 million people each week, Suzy is the author of a number of books on natural health.
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